A strong society is a polite society
From The Archives - I’m going back through the old blog and reposting some of the best articles.
“An armed society is a polite society”. - Robert A. Heinlein
The quote above is one of the most overused quotes in the gun forums, but there is a truth to it. We live in Boulder, and it's best that I don't start a war about guns, but I see parallels to this in just being strong and confident (from being strong).
Earlier this week there was a big thread in my neighborhood's private forum. It turns out that a contractor mistakenly parked in a neighbor's parking space and things quickly escalated to the cops being called. I place no blame on any one party here, the gal who called the cops had a legitimate fear that there was a creepy older man stalking her. And the guy who parked in her space had a legitimate fear that the cops were being called and his truck was going to be towed.
Rather than have a screaming match and blocking people in with your car, what would be the reasonable solution? Probably talking calmly and asking the stranger why he was in your parking space. But why didn't that happen? You never know who you're going to encounter - it could be your friendly neighborhood handyman, or it could be some predator. If you are not confident in defending yourself, you need to assume the worst and that means calling the cops. That's not a fun way to live your life. And often the escalation can become more dangerous than the original encounter.
Now, anyone who knows me knows that I always assume the worst in people and am always ready to protect myself, but I don't go around calling the cops at the drop of a hat. If the same situation happened to me, I would have calmly and politely (and ready to defend myself) approached the truck to find out what was up, and I'm sure the situation would have defused rather quickly without the need to call the cops.
If you are confident in your abilities to protect yourself (and strength is the first step in that) you can probably avoid unnecessary escalations that could become dangerous. It will at least make your life less stressful.